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Introduction
How often does your team truly understand how to work with you? Probably less than you’d hope. And how often do you take the time to clarify your own work style, preferences, and expectations?
Frederick Ros has taken a structured approach to self-awareness and team alignment through the Personal User Manual (PUM)—a document that outlines how he works best, communicates, and collaborates with his team. Instead of leaving relationships to trial and error, his PUM serves as a guide to help colleagues navigate his leadership quirks and working style from day one.
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Why the Personal User Manual Works
The PUM is a simple yet powerful tool that turns self-awareness into team clarity and efficiency. Here’s why it works:
🟢 Builds trust through transparency – By proactively sharing his PUM, Frederick eliminates the guesswork about his expectations, communication style, and leadership approach. This fosters open, honest conversations right from the start.
🟢 Fosters psychological safety – His PUM makes it clear that feedback, directness, and humor are welcome. It sets expectations for how to interact with him, reducing anxiety and misunderstandings.
🟢 Enhances leadership effectiveness – By knowing how he operates best—and inviting his team to do the same—Frederick creates an environment where everyone collaborates with fewer friction points.
🟢 Strengthens team dynamics – When everyone understands each other’s preferences (not just the leader’s), teams work together more effectively and with greater empathy.
So, why leave collaboration to chance? Creating a Personal User Manual isn’t just an exercise in self-reflection—it’s a game-changer for building high-trust, high-performance teams.
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PUM Play: How to Create a Personal User Manual in 3 Simple Steps (with AI!)
Creating a Personal User Manual (PUM) is a simple yet powerful way to improve collaboration, reduce misunderstandings, and make teamwork more efficient. AI can take this even further, helping teams create, maintain, and use PUMs more effectively. Here’s how:
Step 1: Self-Reflection (30 Min)
Use this template to start a PUM or make one that works for you:
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💡 AI Enhancement:
✅ AI-powered prompts can guide self-reflection, offering tailored questions based on role, personality, or past collaboration patterns.
✅ AI can help structure responses, turning rough notes into a clear, well-formatted PUM.
Step 2: Share & Discuss (10min per participant)
Hold a team discussion (live or async) where everyone shares their PUM. Set ground rules:
✔ No pressure to share deeply personal details—this is about work styles.
✔ The goal is to improve collaboration, not judge personalities.
✔ Psychological safety first—all insights are welcome.
💡 AI Enhancement:
✅ AI can summarize PUM themes across a team, highlighting communication overlaps or potential friction points.
✅ AI can suggest best practices for working with different team members based on their preferences.
Step 3: Store & Use It!
Upload PUMs to a shared, searchable space (Notion, Google Drive, Confluence, or an AI-integrated tool).
Maintenance: Keeping PUMs Relevant
🗓 Quarterly or biannual check-ins help keep PUMs accurate.
🔄 AI can automate reminders, prompting individuals to update their PUMs when roles or work styles change.
📌 AI-powered search (e.g., CHAT GPT) allows team members to quickly find key PUM details (e.g., “How does Fred prefer feedback?”).
Maintenance: Keeping PUMs Relevant
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Quarterly or biannual check-ins are typically enough to ensure PUMs stay up to date.
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Individual Responsibility: Each person revisits their own PUM, updating it if they or changes roles, picks up new communication tools, or shifts their or availability.
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Team Accountability: A quick 10-minute “PUM refresh” can be tacked onto existing team meetings. An HR or team lead can remind everyone to review and tweak their PUMs as needed.
Addressing Potential Objections
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“This is too touchy-feely.”Emphasize the tangible benefits: fewer mistakes, faster problem-solving, and better feedback culture.
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“I don’t want to share personal info.” Clarify that PUMs are about work styles and preferences, not private details.
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“Too time-consuming.” Demonstrate how a simple, bullet-point PUM can be created in under an hour and can save countless hours of miscommunication down the line.
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Real Insights from Frederick’s Experience
🟢 Psychological safety works both ways – By openly discussing his own mistakes and vulnerabilities, Frederick created a space where his team felt safe to share feedback without fear of judgment. His willingness to acknowledge personal flaws reinforced mutual trust.
🟢 Team members learn from each other – Feedback was not just about Frederick; his approach encouraged team members to share their own perspectives, fostering peer-to-peer learning and deepening their understanding of each other’s working styles.
🟢 Vulnerability inspires connection – Frederick’s openness about personal struggles, including a past training experience where he shared an emotional moment, set the tone for his team to be equally open, strengthening team bonds.
🟢 Unexpected insights – His realization that different cultural backgrounds and personalities influence how people express feedback led to a greater appreciation for diverse viewpoints, even from the more reserved team members.
🟢 Positive feedback sets the tone – While discussing areas for improvement, Frederick’s team balanced the conversation by acknowledging strengths and what was working well, which fostered a constructive, forward-focused dialogue.
Common Pitfalls & How to Avoid Them
🚫 Turning feedback into a complaint fest → Frederick ensures discussions remain solution-oriented by emphasizing that mistakes are learning opportunities rather than sources of blame.
🚫 Leader becoming defensive → He actively practices self-awareness, recognizing when his "engineer brain" is jumping to solutions instead of truly listening. His coaching experience helped him shift to a more reflective approach.
🚫 Lack of follow-up → Frederick understands that feedback without action erodes trust. His commitment to adjusting based on past feedback (even from difficult interactions) demonstrates that listening leads to meaningful change.
How to Maximize the Impact
🔥 Make it a habit – Frederick’s team regularly engages in feedback sessions, whether in structured settings or informal team chats, creating an ongoing culture of open dialogue.
🔥 Celebrate progress – By sharing personal growth stories—such as his journey from receiving tough feedback to earning a leadership position—he reinforces the idea that feedback leads to real, tangible improvement.
